Women , Please answer this. Re:Waxing/Shaving?

Hello. I've been shaving my 'area' for a little while and it hurts really bad because its a tug-and-pull kind of thing but even if it does work, theres pimples,red spots,& everything else down there. im scared to show my boyfriend 'myself' when we're intimate and its embarassing. im thinking about waxing but i heard theres a few ways to do it yourself. whats the best way to do it yourself & any tips on how to reduce side effects from shaving & waxing? Thanks a lot :)